Be the YOU that you would pick if you were the prospective Bae, No one is ever going to sell your brand better than You the product and no one beats the original. Its just unfortunate that we rely on other sources to define our packaging. We are then often mislabelled and found in an entirely wrong section of the shop and this is why our biggest “buyer” may never come across us. We are existing through life and not living, so ofcourse our significant other can’t identify the of “who” we truly are.
In the bible some of the greatest truths are about people with character, bold enough to make mistakes and keep fighting the good fight. These days we calculate on the sidelines and hope to conform until rewarded. Its not so much conformity that is the problem but what is conformed to. We conform to “how-to” self-help books yet they have a defect in that most give you a list of subtle manipulations to hack someone’s mind and get them “hooked”on you.
The hooked aspect sounds great right?..hmmm not quite because what has them hooked is a well executed game plan and not You or even the essence of you. Imagine having to keep up the game just to keep them, call it post-catch baiting, its pretty unsustainable and also the quickest way to disapointment when the real you inevitably rocks up. Its also pretty selfish (see what i did there ?..baiting, selfish hihihihihi) and manipulative which again is highly unattractive.
This way of thinking is so focused on him/her and what they can bring to the table that there’s no room for you to figure out what you can take to their table and whether their table is in line with your purpose, values, hopes and dreams. You project a fake you and are surprised when the other person can’t take the real you. Then you are REJECTED and you go about creating fake stereotypes about men and women. “Vakadzi havaite”, “varume imbwa”…sound familliar?
Countless failed relationships and you are convinced it’s a “spiritual attack” when you are a non-entity to the enemy, your lifestyle is basically in line with his ways. You are super proud, have no room for God, beleive church is for pansies or has to be action packed (live demonic manifestations, dramatic deliverances and promises of prosperity for you to consider going). You’re not actually looking for a relationship but a get rich quick transaction veiled by misquoted scripture.
Well let me tell you brothers and sisters, spiritual attacks do exist, but you have to be a threat to be aggresively marked and opposed. Some of us are agents of the enemy more than targets and some of these trials are God trying to bring us back to our true righteousness in him. There is a deeper aspect of spiritual warfare but thats not what i have touched on here.
I’m tired of people, myself included looking for solutions outside of their ability to make better choices in life. If we could only choose life.. trust God, seek his kingdom then all these things will be added to you including the wherwithal to make better choices.
