From “The real foundation of lasting relationships” in the previous article, I am going deeper into ‘the happiness problem’. Yes, it’s a thing. A thing which can destroy your quality of life if you don’t give it due attention. I’m going to explore the happiness problem is and how we can overcome it.
What is the happiness problem?
A silent killer often not seen until it’s too late. It takes the form of depression, discouragement and a host of other such negatives. These influence behaviours which ultimately result in relationship breakdown. The scariest thing is that you’ll throw solutions at it not realizing that you’ve already misdiagnosed it.
The deeper issue
We were designed to fellowship with God. The problem is that this fellowship has been strategically disputed and a lot of us are falling for the wrong ‘truth’.
Think about it, we say things like “I need to drown my sorrows” but we are perpetuating a solution which isn’t one. Some get to eating continuously and others stop eating entirely and these self-destructive behaviours are all the result of one thing. Trying to fill a God-size void with world-size solutions
I believe we’ve lost many people along the way because we didn’t know how to diagnose or help them.
How can we overcome it?
By first admitting there’s a problem and seeking out the right advice. There are two kinds of advice in the world. The advice which works and the advice which mimics the advice which works but doesn’t.
Here’s my advice:
Start from the bottom bringing your shattered heart before God and asking Him to fill the God-sized void which is causing trouble in the first place. By giving Him the permission, we are also giving Him the opportunity to transform our lives.
God doesn’t expect us to operate on our own strength. He expects us to connect and fellowship with Him so that He can impart the strength to do the impossible.
We get so discouraged and stay in discouragement because we are trying to prove our worth to God based on the world’s system of weights and measures.
